Dec 15, 2015

Somewhere Only We Know

So, I have just finished watching 有一个地方只有我们知道 or Somewhere Only We Know. One off my movie bucket list! Whew. And it's 2.43 am now.

Too bad, even though many who watched it said that it was a tear-jerking movie, I did not cry. Weird. Maybe I was focusing too much on the actor (Wu Yi Fan, my all time celebrity crush weeee), hahahaha. I really don't know why I didn't cry. Well, it is still a nice movie nevertheless.

*types this while repeatedly listening to the movie's OST*

One of the elements the movie focuses on is the 'The One' concept. This reminds me of an article I read from Brain Pickings (a nice page, seriously) which discusses on the mindset of 'The One' in society. Since when does this belief of The One occur? What do we expect to see or have from The One? Why do we just have The One - but not many? Why, on the first place, do we even have this 'belief'?

Many I know, believe in The One. The one that we will be spending our whole life with. Maybe if we're not that long-lived, then he or she will be the one we will love for our whole life. The one that understands us and accepts us just the way we are. The one that we will spend our happy times and sad times together. The one that will always be there for us. At the same time, we know we will always be there for them too. Et cetera.

All the fantasies we build in that tiny brain we have. Smash together into 'The One'.

Oddly, I believe in it.

However perhaps, not the way most will do. I think that The One doesn't necessarily need to be a husband or a boyfriend. It just has to be someone we can be very, very close to. Someone we can really connect with. Not even necessarily in a romantic relationship. It can be a platonic relationship. And maybe it doesn't have to be someone from the opposite gender, it can just be anyone. But personally, I would think of The One as a guy I think. I don't know, besides I mingle better with guys than girls (again, I think).

Anyway, what I want to say is he/she doesn't even have to be married to us or even be in a romantic relationship. You can be unmarried, but there is always The One for you. The one that can be your closest friend ever. And both might be even unmarried but just aren't interested in marrying or dating each other. There are so many other commitments in the world to do, and clearly marrying The One is just one of them. It might not be even important. You can still survive without a partner, right?

Hmm, perhaps I shouldn't use the pronoun 'you' or 'we' or 'us'. It's just me, anyway. Just my personal opinions, okay people okay.

And typing this reminds me of what my friends told me, "I really can't imagine if May will get married one day." And another friend of mine also said, "I will definitely interview that guy and ask 'how do you get May', like seriously. But I don't even know if that's gonna happen."

I really find those remarks funny, not even offensive. I understand my friends, who know why they said that.

I'll just see and wait. But one thing I'm sure, I'm not desperate because I never hope for it either. I have learnt many things from previous years. Dark things, but at least now I have many good folks who care for me and I care for them too. Life is really good, for the mean time. There are many other things I want to do and here I go, saving the world! *puts a superhero mask and flies*

“现在。。。拥抱你身边的人吧”
(For now... embrace the people around you.)
- 有一个地方只有我们知道 / Somewhere Only We Know